Today I wanted to talk about dreams and why so many of us do not dream and, when we do, do not take much notice of what is happening in our dreams or even remember them!
Dreaming happens in the REM state of sleep. This is the deep level of restful sleep which happens around 90 minutes after you fall asleep. The first period of REM typically lasts 10 minutes. Each of your later REM stages gets longer, and the final one may last up to an hour. In this stage of sleep your heart rate and breathing quickens and this is the time when can have intense dreams, as your brain is more active.
So it would stand to reason that for many of us we do not dream or do not remember dreaming as we have possibly not even reached the stage of deep REM sleep where our body is relaxed and shut down and our brain activity is focused purely on the processing of the subconscious brain waves and stimulus that occurs in this stage.
For many people trying to battle deadlines and keep up with life's volume of expectations and tasks which pull us from the opening of the eyes in the morning to the head hitting the pillow in the evening, there is little time for processing much and also little hope of an 8hour sleep; This is the amount of time it is understood most human adults need for cell replenishment and systemic renewel and rebalancing. To process if you will the day that has gone before.
I myself average about four to five hours a night and when the eyelids are yanked open by the loving voice of my only son :) I am always left wanting more and hoping for the next session with my pillow.
There is never a day when I then am not grateful for the presence of Dottera Essential oils in my life. I call on them for energy and balance, (Balance grounding Blend on my feet and aromatically inhaled)( lemon and wild orange in my water) for motivation and focus through out the day when my cognitive endurance (In tune, Motivate )starts to wane due to fatigue and for pretty much every other support where my systems feel depleted as they have not had the benefit of a good night's rest.
Don't get me wrong! there is no substitute for good restful sleep, however it can not be denied that these oils are so supportive in picking you up, comforting and stabilising you until the next visit to sleep ville.
SO then I want to come back to dreams. Dreams that I am aware of and conscious of in my waking moments, and dreams that I experience in my sleep as well. I am always fascinated by the absurd and complex nature of my dreams...by the strange and mysterious annals of my mind which play out in vivid colours... misshapen figures and many limbed bodies and creatures I am sure I have never seen in any fairytale or movie, nor read of in any book. I am sure that scenes from real life experience are often intertwined with fantasy events so that often I wake to wonder if I had dreamt something or simply recalled an event of my life...or if perhaps I had just experienced a foretelling a and a deep secret unveiling of something to come...
I used to keep a dream diary when I was a child..If I woke and remembered the dreams I would write them in here in detail, and then read over them months later and wonder at the things my mind could conjur. Not any more though...so many perhaps useful, perhaps wistful practices of child hood I have given up or let go of as time wasting or not important enough to continue. And yet now I am fascinated again with dreams. With how things formulate themselves and then our inner fears, our experiences, our perceptions and our emotions shape and mould them into something of a dream which plays out while we are deeply in sleep mode.
I am noticing this with Hunter my son, whose sleep patterns are very varied and always have been. A light sleeper he wakes often, calls out and makes strange noises and often wakes in a rage or mid what would seem an uncomfortable dream that he needs to be soothed or freed from. Such a young and yet incredibly complex mind I assume he is processing the myriad experiences he draws stimulus from everyday in his tiny being...finding his place in the world and his expressions of boundary fear doubt and emotion in general in so many examples around him...which he then must learn to feel and define in his own way.
I know too he has been here before, and so wonder, as I often feel is the case for me, if he is processing different lives and dimensional experiences within those dreams...and whether our REM sleep where our minds are so very active is the opportunity our soul takes, while the rest of the body rests, to compute experience, to imprint our soul with the lessons and the messages we are here to decode...
Is this too deep ? I don't know...what I do know is that we can change our experience of things and the experience of those around us with simple changes in the environment and supportive loving intervention. I know that when I diffuse Doterra Juniper berry and lavender peace in Hunter's diffuser at night he sleeps more peacefully, and snuggles in more closely at night..I know that this diffuser blend keeps me mad awake!!! which is a sacrifice I am willing to make for the peaceful little soul right next to me to gain his own rest.
I know that when I diffuse Cedarwood Bergamot and wild orange I dream....and the little rest I do manage to get feels replenishing and full...
I know that when I roller ball balance on hunter's feet and diffuse lime aborvitae AND lavender in the diffuser we both sleep-WELL- and seem not to dream...a good or bad thing I dont know as far as the level of processing of this and many lives we need to do!haha...but I enjoy those nights when wrapped in the tiny limbs of my little man I know we can control that factor in our environment and trully rest together.
SO I guess what I am saying is it is important to be conscious. It is important to be 'awake'.
Awake to our needs and the tools at our disposal to help us to meet those needs in a fully conscious and responsible way so that we can be the best people we can be. To dream a little dream is so important, and also to understand the way these dreams become and what they mean about our emotional and mental state of being and health in general.
I am so grateful that I have found the oils in my life and that they have given me the tools to help the people I love and to manage my own needs so that I can be the best most authentic and healthy person I can be!!
There is an oil for everything and a personality to the oils and with in each there is a piece that fits into a piece of our own puzzle to help us to patch work the picture of ourselves together.
I am so excited for that! And to share that with you and your family!!!
This is a conscious dream, and one that has been delivered to me on many a night in my sleep in so many creative forms and shapes...I am still deciphering the shape of this dream... But it involves mother nature guiding me and all of us back to a true sense of self and soul journey!!!
If you would like to embark on that unveiling of true health wellness and self with me, please get in touch!!!
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Burnout is a strange expression. Because the feeling you have when you have reached the point where you need to lay everything down and have a sob into your morning coffee, or you have attacked someone close to you and rammed their conversation down their throat because its intonation was too much for you to bear...is more like hopelessness and defeat. It doesn't burn, there is no heat and fire to it- it is just plain "over it, giving up! sod it!" exhaustion.
Then again in the purest sense maybe it poignantly means you can no longer burn the candle at both ends but that your flame, your zest for life is extinguished!
This burning the candle at both ends is a funny expression too!
Figuratively, it is used to refer to partying generally and spending days up and nights also...although for me it literally has become defined by early early morning rising with my son to start the day well before most people expect to have to wake their bodies and minds up, and in consequence having to then go to bed well before any self respecting adult would think was a reasonable hour to hit the pillow!
So I am interested in talking about burnout. It is a term used to describe a state which is so prevalent in the modern day lives of most people. We push and are pushed to strive to fit more and more into our waking hours, to be active physically mentally and spiritually ...to be switched on and engaged! In a world where social media never sleeps, screen time is always a blurry blue or hazy white glow in the background and noise white or otherwise surrounds our every waking and often sleeping moment...it is safe to say more people are suffering from burnout now than ever before. It seems to be a combination of things that lead to this... poor work/ home life, lack of choices, inability to prioritise down time or plan productive up time...and a need to push for the next dollar to pay the next bill to meet the next deadline.
There is also growing expectation in our social lives! to get the kids to the next play date, sports session, swimming lesson and birthday party.
Modern life has created the sort of mouse in a wheel cycle that leads to many people having a meltdown and having to admit the y are not able to go on!
Social media and tv would have us believe that we can all be super mums, dads, humans-exercising every day and eating three balanced meals, socialising whilst still getting all our work related jobs done, making new friends, taking part in life's rich pattern while also getting sleep and posting a few beauty shots while we are at it. However this is not most peoples reality. The reality is we need to start being more real, and more kind to ourselves.
It has taken a long long time for me to get to a point of recognising that I need to take better care of myself if I am to be of any use to any one else in my life. It is hard to admit you are not invincible (especially for a virgo!) It is hard to admit that you are getting older..it is difficult to admit that you sometimes just don't have the energy for one more thing to pop up and have to be dealt with!
After having my child at 38 and realising that I would be bringing him up as a single mother, I set about finishing two courses, moving house, twice, settling in a new state and starting two businesses. Because lets face it, you cannot rest on your laurels! life keeps rolling along even if you just want to sit back and take a break.
I am grateful that I am driven, that I do not like to fail and that I am the kind of person who seeks to succeed and achieve and is unlikely to give up until something is finished...however I am also grateful for the wisdom and realisation that comes with years of making mistakes and stumbling along the way, that helps me know self care is so so important too.
I need to stop sometimes and meditate, I need my early morning run to process my thoughts and boost me into another day, I need cuddles from my son and I need to remember to eat properly and to rest when I can. I need most of all to learn to say no to people. To tell them I cannot, it is too much, and I need to learn to do this without letting feelings of guilt enter after.
One of the most important things we can learn in the process of avoiding burnout is to set boundaries. Boundaries for ourselves and for others. This is not easy to do and it takes strength. Some people will not like it, and that is ok too. Mostly they are the people who have not yet learned to set their own, or respect others.
I have also learnt to listen to my intuition. To my gut! I have learnt that when I do this I make better decisions. I feel stronger and I feel better about myself.
For me the essential oil journey sits side by side with this consciousness about self care and intuitive boundary settings. The oils have helped me to speak my truth and supported me to stand in my power, or to draw power when I have felt depleted. My belief in the power of plant medicine has given back to me with daily lessons of the power the oils also draw to the surface in me.
I listen to the oils and to my body when I am feeling depleted, or emotionally or physically overwhelmed...and I am drawn to the oils I need, and then I rest in their power.
It sounds like hippy bull I know! I was a sceptic too! But now I am not.The power of these amazing natural plant oils has changed my life, my heart, my relationships with others and my self....
And through discovering and using the oils...I have learnt another vital part of who I am, how I can care for myself and in this crazy hectic life...a way I can avoid burnout and continue my self care.
What do the oils do for you?
How do you recognise your need for self care?
Hi. I'm Emma.
I am a single mother and remedial massage therapist living through my heart and trying to authentically encourage others to live their truth and in their heart space!
The world can be a challenging and sometimes daunting space and I think it is important to always find something to laugh at, to connect to the earth and to resonate with your hearts story when walking your journey.
The essential oils came into my life organically at a time when I needed them and have changed our lives forever. I am so excited to share and empower people on their health and wellness journeys with these amazing natural alternatives to chemical and synthetic solutions.
The oily love is growing and the healthcare revolution is in full swing! Time to Jump on board!!