Burnout is a strange expression. Because the feeling you have when you have reached the point where you need to lay everything down and have a sob into your morning coffee, or you have attacked someone close to you and rammed their conversation down their throat because its intonation was too much for you to bear...is more like hopelessness and defeat. It doesn't burn, there is no heat and fire to it- it is just plain "over it, giving up! sod it!" exhaustion.
Then again in the purest sense maybe it poignantly means you can no longer burn the candle at both ends but that your flame, your zest for life is extinguished!
This burning the candle at both ends is a funny expression too!
Figuratively, it is used to refer to partying generally and spending days up and nights also...although for me it literally has become defined by early early morning rising with my son to start the day well before most people expect to have to wake their bodies and minds up, and in consequence having to then go to bed well before any self respecting adult would think was a reasonable hour to hit the pillow!
So I am interested in talking about burnout. It is a term used to describe a state which is so prevalent in the modern day lives of most people. We push and are pushed to strive to fit more and more into our waking hours, to be active physically mentally and spiritually ...to be switched on and engaged! In a world where social media never sleeps, screen time is always a blurry blue or hazy white glow in the background and noise white or otherwise surrounds our every waking and often sleeping moment...it is safe to say more people are suffering from burnout now than ever before. It seems to be a combination of things that lead to this... poor work/ home life, lack of choices, inability to prioritise down time or plan productive up time...and a need to push for the next dollar to pay the next bill to meet the next deadline.
There is also growing expectation in our social lives! to get the kids to the next play date, sports session, swimming lesson and birthday party.
Modern life has created the sort of mouse in a wheel cycle that leads to many people having a meltdown and having to admit the y are not able to go on!
Social media and tv would have us believe that we can all be super mums, dads, humans-exercising every day and eating three balanced meals, socialising whilst still getting all our work related jobs done, making new friends, taking part in life's rich pattern while also getting sleep and posting a few beauty shots while we are at it. However this is not most peoples reality. The reality is we need to start being more real, and more kind to ourselves.
It has taken a long long time for me to get to a point of recognising that I need to take better care of myself if I am to be of any use to any one else in my life. It is hard to admit you are not invincible (especially for a virgo!) It is hard to admit that you are getting older..it is difficult to admit that you sometimes just don't have the energy for one more thing to pop up and have to be dealt with!
After having my child at 38 and realising that I would be bringing him up as a single mother, I set about finishing two courses, moving house, twice, settling in a new state and starting two businesses. Because lets face it, you cannot rest on your laurels! life keeps rolling along even if you just want to sit back and take a break.
I am grateful that I am driven, that I do not like to fail and that I am the kind of person who seeks to succeed and achieve and is unlikely to give up until something is finished...however I am also grateful for the wisdom and realisation that comes with years of making mistakes and stumbling along the way, that helps me know self care is so so important too.
I need to stop sometimes and meditate, I need my early morning run to process my thoughts and boost me into another day, I need cuddles from my son and I need to remember to eat properly and to rest when I can. I need most of all to learn to say no to people. To tell them I cannot, it is too much, and I need to learn to do this without letting feelings of guilt enter after.
One of the most important things we can learn in the process of avoiding burnout is to set boundaries. Boundaries for ourselves and for others. This is not easy to do and it takes strength. Some people will not like it, and that is ok too. Mostly they are the people who have not yet learned to set their own, or respect others.
I have also learnt to listen to my intuition. To my gut! I have learnt that when I do this I make better decisions. I feel stronger and I feel better about myself.
For me the essential oil journey sits side by side with this consciousness about self care and intuitive boundary settings. The oils have helped me to speak my truth and supported me to stand in my power, or to draw power when I have felt depleted. My belief in the power of plant medicine has given back to me with daily lessons of the power the oils also draw to the surface in me.
I listen to the oils and to my body when I am feeling depleted, or emotionally or physically overwhelmed...and I am drawn to the oils I need, and then I rest in their power.
It sounds like hippy bull I know! I was a sceptic too! But now I am not.The power of these amazing natural plant oils has changed my life, my heart, my relationships with others and my self....
And through discovering and using the oils...I have learnt another vital part of who I am, how I can care for myself and in this crazy hectic life...a way I can avoid burnout and continue my self care.
What do the oils do for you?
How do you recognise your need for self care?
Hi. I'm Emma.
I am a single mother and remedial massage therapist living through my heart and trying to authentically encourage others to live their truth and in their heart space!
The world can be a challenging and sometimes daunting space and I think it is important to always find something to laugh at, to connect to the earth and to resonate with your hearts story when walking your journey.
The essential oils came into my life organically at a time when I needed them and have changed our lives forever. I am so excited to share and empower people on their health and wellness journeys with these amazing natural alternatives to chemical and synthetic solutions.
The oily love is growing and the healthcare revolution is in full swing! Time to Jump on board!!